Throughout the month of December, I’ll be participating in #reverb13: Reverb is a way to reflect on the past year and project into the next year with a prompt a day for 31 days.
Day 30 – Relationships
Did you find a new best friend? Delve deeper into an existing relationship? Break up? Get back together?
Honestly, I have to say "not so much" to all of those questions.
I've got two female friends with whom I usually apply the "best friend" title -- one local, one who has moved away. And I have about 5 other women in my life who could just as easily use that title, plus of course women who were my best friends at different times in my life but whom I keep up with far too infrequently now, but love just the same. Of course my true best friend is my husband, but he has that husband title, so I usually use the best friend title with others.
As for delving deeper into existing relationships, not in any notable way. I mean, time and experiences always seem to solidify relationships with people that you're in frequent contact with. But nothing notable from 2013 strikes me as delving deeper. I feel like I try to be a good friend to my friends, and that definitely deepens relationships.
As for breaking up and getting back together, thank God, no! I actually feel like I worried more about that during the time we were dating obviously and the first few years of marriage. But now things just seem more settled. Events, arguments, problems, things that just a few years ago now could have seemed like "the end of our marriage" was next, are now just things that I know we'll get through. (As a side note, I'm kind of glad hubby was already married and divorced once, it gave him a much better sense of perspective than I had, so he would say things like, "I know you're upset, and you want to walk away because you don't see how you can fathom a lifetime of closing the cabinet doors behind me, but we will find a way together to overcome this hurdle.") We're coming up on our fifth anniversary this year, and it will also be nine years together, and honestly, it seems like now we could even handle some of the biggest obstacles -- a job loss, death of a family member, an unwanted pregnancy, a move, an accident or disability, a lawsuit, whatever.
Lucky, lucky, lucky...